A few months after school started, I relinquished all the girls rights, to riding the bus home.
Let me explain, in case you can benefit from my ignorance.
This was a new school to us with a bus stop, pretty much right at our driveway. Being such a convenience I was willing to over look some of the bad baggage, that came along with it.
The Language~ My girls learned all kinds of new words. They learned real fast what exactly a bad word was, and shut-up was no longer one of them. Which looking back, prepared us for the day Madisen's friend a 1st grader called and wouldn't stop saying the F-word. (the first and last time she called!)
The gestures~ The middle finger was no longer viewed as just a finger. I was absolutely thrilled the day Madisen (2nd grade) came home, making a butt hole and finger action with her hands. She was mortified and I was shocked when Kailey (4th grade) was able to explain what it was.
The teasing~ One of which was when a boy was the ring leader in teasing Kailey, because she doesn't shave her legs. Were talking a K-5 elementary school bus, like any of the girls shave their legs! That led to Jason and I reluctantly teaching her ways to tease back. ("Is that your face or did your neck throw up?"...) I know were bad parents! It was either that or I was going to ring the little twerps neck myself. I will say this, bad tactics or not it worked. She didn't get off crying again!
It's the public school system, we expected it to be a little bad. We were saving money with gas at $4.00 a gallon and they can't always be sheltered. They'll be exposed to it eventually. The main thing was just to teach them right. I knew from growing up riding the bus myself, it would be bad. My thought was, it's only Elementary, how bad could it really be?
The straw that broke the camels back...
The day Madisen came home to fill me in, about a 5th grader that tried to pay her to play in his pants! Thank god, she had enough sense to say 'No', AND tell me about it! I can't tell you how shocked and furious I was. That was the last time they have and will ever ride the bus. I contacted the principle right away and gave my piece of mind.(as if he could do anything to stop it) Can you believe it? A fifth grader!! I am sure his home life has some part in his actions. I still would have killed him, if she listened to him. I can't and don't want to imagine what would have been next?
I am so glad our girls are raised in a home where they are taught right from wrong. It makes me feel good for them to come home and question the actions of their friends. Instead of joining in, they do what they know is right. I'm sure it's just their age, but I hope they always keep the communication open. *huffing* I know, who am I kidding? I'm just days away from turning uncool. You know it's only a matter of time, before they are cussing me behind close doors and sneaking out with mini skirts in their backpacks! I guess my only hope is that they never out grow the urge to tattle. Surely one out of three will eventually crack and keep me informed.