Do you ever fight and argue with someone all day, without them even knowing? What I mean is its just all in your head. If you answered No, then you are thinking I need to be in a nut house because I am crazy. If you answered yes and laughed under your breath, then yeah your crazy too, ( just like me )! There's one thing about if your going to pick a fight with me you better be ready to dish it out, if your going to have any chance of winning. If not, the longer I stew about it the worse your going to get slammed in the end. You see, I will go over every single detail and scenario about it. It’s all day over and over arguing back and forth, all in silence. That way when it is time to finally hash it out I can be calm and collective, (well most of the time) and I will just let you have it.Although, with kids you know most of the time you just don't have this option. You just have to think fast and seize the moment. Most times when this happens I spit out so much so fast that it makes no sense. I get so frustrated; I can't even get their names straight. Spitting out every other name before theirs and too much unneeded information and I just stand their like a blabbering idiot. It’s not as affective either I must say. Take for instance one morning when my girls are doing anything and everything but get ready on time for school. They'll stand in front of the TV half naked apparently trying to put clothes on. (What is so mesmerizing about that box I will never know?) If it wasn't that, then they were chasing the cat or fighting, instead of eating their breakfast. I'm in my room trying to get dressed, while trying to keep Jacob away from the toilet or out from under the bed. (since he refuses to stay in the playpen every morning). Every few minutes one of the girls comes to tell on the other. Meanwhile the clock is ticking and no one is near ready to walk out the door.
Going on ten minutes late... I have hit my breaking point after all my threats have failed and I hear a final whine of fighting. (Madisen to Kailey standing at the door; "don't push me...stop it!")
So... I go off on them, and end with "Now let's go, brush your teeth!”. Here they are looking at me back packs on ready to walk out the door, wondering why I said for them to brush their teeth. What I meant to say was "Now let's go, get in the car!” In a way correcting myself I just say "You know what I meant to say... Just go!”. I’m sure with all that confusion just they forget everything that was previous said, and figure they just better behave cause momma’s crazy.
I agree 100%! and "stew" describes it perfectly!
ReplyDeleteOh, I fight with my husband all the time in my head, meanwhile he has no clue, and is propped in front of the TV enjoying the show! And I'm all bitter and cringing at the argument that goes on... in my head! Too funny!
ReplyDeleteI always do the 5 minute freak out in the morning. OMG 5 minutes left, hurry hurry hurry you are going to miss the bus!! Trevor usually picks that moment to want a toy he can't find or something!
ReplyDeletei'm not a mom. but i have to wake my younger sister up and get her ready, so i kind of have an idea about what you mean. & as for the "stewing" part, i totally understand, because i'm just like that.
ReplyDeletelol. that's why i don't want to have a second child, just yet. my 5 year old daughter keeps me going crayz, what more if i got more children. haha.
ReplyDeleteanyway, i like your blog. nice to be here. =]
I'm not a mum (actually, I'm a daughter, and not the greatest one at that!) but I often have to look after my seven year old brtoher, and he is so argumentitive!
ReplyDeleteI try and get him to do something, and he won't listen to me, and we both end up screaming about a completely unrelated subject.
As the eldest brother and somewhat more responsible upon my two siblings, I think I get what you're feeling.,...
ReplyDeleteTake care and good luck....
ooh I hate when I say the wrong thing and my hubby corrects me :(
ReplyDeleteMy kid is only 3 and will do a twisty while I try to put her diaper on or her clothes until she can see the tv.. It's Dora the Explorer I tell you. Evil.. EVIL!...lol :D
I seem to fight with everybody without them ever realising! (So blokes can do it, too, you know...)
ReplyDeleteBut I know what you mean about calling kids everybody else's name first before their own. My two can sometimes get me in such a stew that I've rattled half of the neighbourhood's kids' names before I get through to my own children's.
I love it! It's nice to know that there are more crazies out there that I can relate to. My husband now has living proof that there are more mom's (and dad's) like me out in the world.
ReplyDeleteHaha aww thats half cute and half annoying, my sister (she's 18), has a one year old and if I start talking, she screams and you can never hear your own thoughts and when she doesn't wanna go to sleep...
ReplyDeleteOh...the horror, I'm just twitching at that thought but thankfully she's asleep.
Much love, Savanna
Hi,
ReplyDeleteI have just found your blog and I love it. I am 8 months pregnant and going through an adoption in China. I enjoy reading about your life with kids. Keep writing.
Thanks,
Cyndi
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Call it all in a days work. I found sometimes it's better just to bite your tong and it will work it's way out. And most of the time it does. Who wants to hear someone fighting all the time. I had to listen to that all the time I was growing up. And made sure my children were not surrounded by alot of negative things. Explain things to them why you want things done in a certain way and eventually they will pick up on it and grow up being better parents for it. Elaine Cooke
ReplyDeleteCan't wait to see your post when you figure out how to get them out door in the morning on time. (help!)
ReplyDeletelooks like i'm not the only one having imaginary arguments in my head and taking them seriously, i feel better now! and yeah, that name mix up...it happens a lot, especially when there is a mini crisis at the homefront and my head and tongue elope and leave me a blithering idiot! i bet my husband wonders at such times 'what he saw in me"!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad I am not the only one who has full out arguments in her head!
ReplyDeletehee hee, that's so true. I've gone to work in tears from that kind of morning frustration. It was a major life stress and I'm not kidding! Then somehow they grew out of it. I thought it would never happen, but thank the Lord it did.
ReplyDeleteI do that too!! Except it's dreaming about argueing with my flatmates...nice blog by the way! I've just started mine. Exciting stuff!
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hahaha you really made me laugh!
ReplyDeleteI don't have children but the fact that you go and say other's names before your daughters' made me really laugh cuz it reminded me with my mother when she gets angry! lol
Elaine~ At first I thought about just rejecting your comment, because of it being so negative. Then I thought it's better just to address it here on the comments page. This way to insure anyone else taking my writing in the wrong manner would understand also.
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I do not fight in front of our children, In fact we rarely even fight at all. My girls like all sisters, do argue and fight from time to time. They share a room and are very close in age it's just expected, but not tolerated. I do not walk around yelling and screaming at my kids. Reading back on my posts you'll see where I find very fun ways of dealing with situations. Just biting my tongue in a situation as this would only let them think it's okay, for their behavior. Every mom hits a breaking point every once in a while and has a moment. I do not ever do it in a manner to hurt my children. I am a Christian woman and hold very sweet and loving household. For you to imply otherwise upsets me.
Hey, I stumbled across your blog today and LOVE it!! I may be stopping by more often...if I can find it again :) Feel free to stop by mine!
ReplyDeleteHaha...You somehow remind me of my own mother. It doesn't change, by the way. Or at least it didn't for her. I'm 19 years old, and she's still getting frustrated and saying all the wrong things--but I love her. And I turned out great!
ReplyDeleteBut anyway, I just wanted to tell you that. You're not crazy. You're a mom. And it's all just something to laugh about later.
i only have one daughter and we have similar issues. getting out the door in the morning is delayed by a tween who changes her mind an infinite # of time before she finally chooses one outfit to wear to school + the utter chaos of a super excited chihuahua/yorkie mix and a long haired cat who likes to fall at your feet begging to be petted. leaving the house together is a chore that can take over an hour not including breakfast.
ReplyDeletethough my daughter has no siblings, i admit that i have gone through the pets names before landing on hers. ~shakes head~ though the norm is calling her my little sister's name. they act just a like!
best wishes.
I silently argue with a lot of people during my day...and I win the arguements, too! We have eight kids. We decided to remodel so during the construction phase we share one bathroom. I am a drill sergent in the morning getting them in and out and on the bus. If I ever followed through with all the threats..... :)
ReplyDeleteI do this all the time...I think it's a girl thing. I've tried to explain it to my husband, and he just asks me why I would do something like that. He doesn't understand that I don't do it on purpose...the voices in my head pick a fight! :P
ReplyDeleteI argue with people in my head all the time. I've tried to explain it to my husband, usually after getting upset with him over something he didn't even realize he said and I've 'stewed' over it for a day or so, and he doesn't get it. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one, and from the number of comments, that's it's actually fairly common! Hooray for us!
ReplyDeleteI've experienced that! Maybe because I believe confrontations should come, when there's no intense emotion that might ruin the talking. I mean, at least shouting and insulting might be precluded.
ReplyDeleteMisunderstandings are always there waiting. It's just how we handle it.
Ohhh, my goodness! Thats how it was for my mom, sister and I every morning! I'm glad we weren't the only ones!
ReplyDeleteFirst off, that is a fabulous DVD... HILARIOUS! OH MY GOSH!!!
ReplyDeleteSecond, girl i had three younger sister and my mom had to deal with the same thing. I can remember her calling all of the other names before she actually reached mine and I was the oldest.. HA!
I am a first time mom to a 15mo. old boy... things are JUST getting started for me. I shall be checking back for advice! :D
Oh how I can relate - a little zoloft post-partum helped me with arguing in my head, but I have yet to conquer my head-spinning turn into something from the Exorcist as we try to make the bus each morning! There are days I actually long for the no-school, baby days, but then I snap out of it. I love your title!
ReplyDeleteThis is too weird. My kids (2 girls and 1 boy) are the same age as yours, and I go through the same thing every morning with them. I agree about the tv. As long as it's on, my kids and my husband go into some sort of trance. I could be on fire and they wouldn't even notice as long as the tv is on. Oh, and I have arguments in my head too. I'm so glad I'm not the only one. I fight with my husband all the time in my head. Funny thing is that sometimes I forget that it's just in my head and remark to him about how hurt I was about something that he told me--in my head--and of course he has no idea what I'm talking about.
ReplyDeleteMy mornings exactly!! I have two step-sons, whom are seven and nine and live with their father and I.
ReplyDeleteThey will actually wake up at six am so they can watch old episodes of Flintstones, Jetsons, and Top Cat. Of course, it takes 30 minutes for them to get dressed. "Are you dressed?" I'll ask. "Almost" They'll reply, of course when I pop my head out the kitchen I see that one always has either just a shirt or pants on. Sometimes I don't even get that!! Then they sit down to eat and I leave the room because I'm growing tired of hearing "He's making faces at me, he's chewing with his mouth open, STOP TOUCHING ME!!" So they run to find me and tattle. I listen and then reply "Go eat". The final test for the morning, is to brush their teeth (it's never done IN the bathroom anymore) and get their shoes on. "I've got a knot in my shoe" I'll hear daily now. Then between shoes, coats and backpacks, someone will be jumping on the other or yelling "GIVE ME THAT BACK, YOU IDIOT".
It's exciting as much as those mornings I'd wake up to the kids fighting with each other, on the couch, over pillows and blankets.
I am not a mother but I know exactly what you mean because I have 2 little sisters who come to me and my mother because I am 15 and they always tell me and then sometimes blame me if my mother catches them...haha..!
ReplyDeleteWell your blog is really nice!