Dealing with a Snubber
What is a snubber?
This is a child with and attitude directed towards an authority figure. Where the child refuses orders, rules, or any contact by displaying an attitude.
What are some examples of a snubber?
A baby that refuses to be handed from one parent to the other, by hanging on for dear life to clothes , hair, arms or legs. This may include screaming, turning their head or shying away.
In toddler children the child may slap at you or run like a Tasmanian devil in the opposite direction.
Grade school kids are greatly known for this on field trips (no matter what arrangements or sacrifices you had to make to get to go). They act as though you aren't even with them, and any rules you have established no longer exists. A very common reaction is the hand and shoulder shrug as if to say "Don't touch me!" One of the first clear signs of the symptoms getting worse is if they back talk you under their breath in public . If your child exhibits this behavior you should be very afraid. (That is the sign of a true risk taker.)
Older children may cross their arms, roll their eyes at the sound of your voice, hide in their room and ignore anything you say. If you did not nip in the bud the first signs above, now your child may not think twice about back talking you to your face.
What is a snubber?
This is a child with and attitude directed towards an authority figure. Where the child refuses orders, rules, or any contact by displaying an attitude.
What are some examples of a snubber?
A baby that refuses to be handed from one parent to the other, by hanging on for dear life to clothes , hair, arms or legs. This may include screaming, turning their head or shying away.
In toddler children the child may slap at you or run like a Tasmanian devil in the opposite direction.
Grade school kids are greatly known for this on field trips (no matter what arrangements or sacrifices you had to make to get to go). They act as though you aren't even with them, and any rules you have established no longer exists. A very common reaction is the hand and shoulder shrug as if to say "Don't touch me!" One of the first clear signs of the symptoms getting worse is if they back talk you under their breath in public . If your child exhibits this behavior you should be very afraid. (That is the sign of a true risk taker.)
Older children may cross their arms, roll their eyes at the sound of your voice, hide in their room and ignore anything you say. If you did not nip in the bud the first signs above, now your child may not think twice about back talking you to your face.
Anytime you have to use the phrase "Hello, I'm talking to you!"- Your being snubbed!
What can bring on a snubbing?
Most of the time they have no reason and it just slips out like an unexpected fart. (only it stinks worse and lasts longer) Yet, there are many little words or sentences you use, in which it is also triggered.
ex; A simple answer of "No" to Anything!
"It's time to go.."
"Sorry, but we can't buy that today."
"Your not wearing that!"
How Long can I expect the attitude to last?
Babies and toddlers are moment to moment, they can make a 180' change in seconds depending on the situation.
Grade school children usually stop the second they are out of the public eye. After your blood pressure is through the roof and you think your at your wits end, they magically turn into an angel.
In teenagers you just have to wait till they mature through this stage which could take months or even years. Unless of course it was just a sparatic tood, in which you can expect it to come and go monthly.
How can I deal with a snubber?
That depends on the age of the child.
Babies...you can forget it, they are sweet gifts from god and they can do what ever they want. Unless, of course its mommy they are snubbing. Then you tell that little bugger, your the one that did all the pushing in labor not Daddy, and you better not start that attitude!
Toddlers... They have a short attention span. Let them run it out and eventually they remember who feeds them. Can't wait that long? Empty promises of candy or ice cream is a great trick.
Grade school children...One short trip to the bathroom or a threatening whisper can be a great public advantage. Usually the threat of telling daddy is more than enough, but the use of guilt can be the most important tool.
Teenagers...If you did not catch the snubber earlier, now your just screwed! Your only hope is bribery and money at this point.
That depends on the age of the child.
Babies...you can forget it, they are sweet gifts from god and they can do what ever they want. Unless, of course its mommy they are snubbing. Then you tell that little bugger, your the one that did all the pushing in labor not Daddy, and you better not start that attitude!
Toddlers... They have a short attention span. Let them run it out and eventually they remember who feeds them. Can't wait that long? Empty promises of candy or ice cream is a great trick.
Grade school children...One short trip to the bathroom or a threatening whisper can be a great public advantage. Usually the threat of telling daddy is more than enough, but the use of guilt can be the most important tool.
Teenagers...If you did not catch the snubber earlier, now your just screwed! Your only hope is bribery and money at this point.
No matter what the age it makes you feel unwanted and like crap.
You will just have to use reverse psychology and ignore them and how it makes you feel.
Expect at times to be hated and at other's to be the best mom ever!
It's just another one of Motherhood's great perks.
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Ok if what you are saying is true, I may need some serious HELP. My four year old already rolls her eyes at me!
ReplyDeleteVery clever. I enjoy looking at your blog.
ReplyDeleteThere are times a good snubbing is just what you need, because it involves silence, and they do what they are suppose to without talking back. Of course, I squeeze it out of them later with a hug.
LOL!!!! Go eat a steak!
ReplyDeleteFunny funny stuff!!
ReplyDeleteI have the baby, the toddler and the grade school kid in my house! Triple Ouch! Now if we can just get grandma to get over the snubs!
I've been through it and I can tell you it doesn't last long and they grow up to respect you and become very good friends and even call all of the time with hundreds of Mom questions about themselves!
ReplyDeleteMom of a 25 year and 27 year old.
I get the eye roll and then a "Mommy" in a British accent. I know, weird they turn British.
ReplyDeleteI have toddler snubbers right now...I can only imagine what they might be capable of as they get older. Dear Lord.
ReplyDeleteNo babies or toddlers here (shuddering)....one 'tude' 9 year old girl, one 'tude' 12 year old boy and 2 very hormonal teen girls - 17 & 18. Snubbing is a regular event here woohoo!
ReplyDeleteNice post!
It sound like they may have learned these lessons from one of the biggest Mother Snubbers of all time!
ReplyDeleteJohnina - My BEST friend. See, I didn't forget the N this time.
ReplyDeleteYou are hilarious. Where do you come up with stuff. Oh hell, I forgot, you're a mom. You can't make this stuff up.
Keep on living.
Whew, I hope we're all as lucky as leezee. Sometimes it's hard to know whether to hope they snub you or tell you what they're really thinking!!
ReplyDeleteI thought I was in trouble with my daughter but I think my son might be worse??? yikes!
ReplyDeleteHaha, I love these posts. I think my parents got off easy with me. I never did the whole rebellion thing. I knew what the consequences would be, and it simply wasn't worth the effort-the short term gain wasn't worth the long term effects. Besides, I really didn't have all that much to rebel against.
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